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Did you know that women can experience different types of orgasms and can even have multiple orgasms?
It’s true!
Unfortunately, many women can go years without an orgasm from their partner. Isn't it time you asked yourself what steps you can do to help?
Here are 10 tips to increase the chances she'll reach climax, including the secret to multiple orgasms.
Start outside the bedroom -
Want to increase the chances she'll orgasm?
When was the last time you surprised her with a little drawing, letter or flowers and sent them to her at work?
Believe it or not, creative and romantic gestures DO turn women on because love and lovemaking are interconnected in a woman’s brain.
Do this and you can bet-your-bottom-dollar you'll be
doing more than just eating dinner when she walks in the door!
Relax her - It’s very hard for women to orgasm if they are stressed.
Give her a quick back massage. Rub her shoulders, upper back and
neck to melt away the tension.
Ignore the vagina - Did you know that prolonged foreplay actually increases the chances of her coming?
That's right. By kissing, caressing and touching her LONGER, you’ll build the sexual tension and often the anticipation
will be very powerful.
Change your focus - If you focus all your attention on the woman first, you'll make love to her much more passionately.
Think about it!
If you've finished first and decide to help her come, you won't have the enthusiasm and passion that's needed to keep her hot and turned on.
Tip to last longer - Of course the first step to help her reach orgasm is by not coming.
The best way I've found to not come is: Penetrate as normal and when you feel like you're about to come, simply move your hips
in a circular motion (like swaying a hula hoop) and wait until the “little guys” subside again. Now continue pleasuring. :D
Don't use lubricants - Women have a natural lubricant that fills the vagina when they're turned on.
By using a product substitute, you're only fooling yourself.
Without products, you’ll instantly know if things are working; but with them, you can never be sure.
Never too much clitoris - Did you know that once you've stimulated the clitoris for some time, a little thing called the clitoral hood will actually come out and cover the clitoris to protect it from further direct stimulation?
(And no, I'm not making this up!)
The point is, once the clitoris is fully stimulated, make sure you pleasure the G-spot next, whether it be with your hand, tongue or penis.
Find and stimulate the G spot - The G-spot is a zone that feels like the roof of your mouth and is located about 2 inches inside the vagina on the topside. (On the underside of her stomach.)
There are two basic ways you can pleasure the G.
With your fingers by doing a “come here” motion or with a love position that helps hit the G-spot…
Use the best position - Not all love positions are made equal.
The best one for women is the reverse missionary (woman on top). This is probably the easiest position for a woman to climax because she can control the friction to her clitoris and/or G-spot.
Give her oral sex - The single best way to help a woman reach orgasm, even multiple orgasms, is by going down on her (cunnilingus).
While at first I didn’t believe it, countless studies have been done to prove this fact.
Oral sex is easier and much more satisfying for women than intercourse is.
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Try the ABC’s with your tongue, ask what she likes, and mix it up with lots of different movements!
However be VERY careful!
With over 6,000 nerve endings in the clitoris, make sure you know everything there is to know before poking your tongue around there, otherwise it could be really painful and, even
worse, spoil the mood.
So there you have it – 10 tips you can start using right away to give women the most earth-shattering experience of their lives.
About the author:
Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of Lick by Lick, the complete guide to giving women oral pleasure.
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In the pursuit of sexual success and fertility, the moon, and everything under it, has been touted as a sexual stimulant by some person or culture. Love potion peddlers stop at nothing to sell their sexual wares.
An aphrodisiac is a food, drink, drug, scent, or device that, promoters claim, can arouse or increase sexual desire, or libido. A broader definition includes products that improve sexual performance.
Named after Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of sexual love and beauty, the list of supposed sexual stimulants includes anchovies and adrenaline, licorice and lard, scallops and Spanish fly, and hundreds of other items.
According to the Food and Drug Administration, the reputed sexual effects of so-called aphrodisiac s are based in folklore, not fact. In 1989, the agency declared that there is no scientific proof that any over-the counter aphrodisiac works to treat sexual dysfunction.
FDA's findings clash with a 5,000 year tradition of pursuing sexual betterment through use of plants, drugs and magic. Despite FDA's determination that over the counter aphrodsiacs are ineffective - and sometimes even dangerous - people continue the optimistic quest for drug induced sexual success.
Several principles help demystify some cultural views about aphrodisiacs. Sometimes the reason for an item's legendary reputation is obvious. It's easy to imagine how the sex organs of animals such as goats and rabbits, known for their procreativeness, have achieved their esteemed status as love aids in some cultures.
Chilies, curries, and other spicy foods have been viewed as aphrodsiacs because their physiological effects - a raised heart rate and sometimes sweating - are similar to the physical reactions experienced during sex. And some foods were glorified as aphrodsiacs based on their rarity and mystery.
While chocolate was once considered the ultimate aphrodisiac, the reputation wore off as it became commonly available.
GINSENG, RHINO HORN AND OYSTERS
Many ancient peoples believed in the so called "law of similarity," reasoning that an object resembling genitalia may possess sexual powers. Ginseng, rhinoceros horn, and oysters are three classical examples.
The word ginseng means "man root" and the plant's reputation as an aphrodisiac probably arises from its marked similarity to the human body. Ginseng has been looked on as an invigorating and rejuvenating agent for centuries in China, Tibet, Korea, Indochina, and India. The root may have a mild stimulant action, like coffee. There have been some experiments reporting a sexual response in animals treated with ginseng, but there is no evidence that ginseng has an effect on human sexuality.
The similarity of the shape of the rhinoceros horn to the penis is credited for its worldwide reputation as a libido enhancer. The horn contains significant amounts of calcium and phosphorus. The addition of the food to a deficient diet could improve general physical vigor and possibly lead to an increased sexual interest. But in most Americans' diets, which are usually not lacking calcium or phosphorus, the small quantities usually consumed would not affect physical performance.
Because Aphrodite was said to be born from the sea, many types of seafood have reputations as aphrodsiacs. Oysters are particularly esteemed as sex aids, possibly gaining their reputation at a time when their contribution of zinc to the nutritionally deficient diets of the day could improve overall health and so lead to an increased sex drive.
SHORTAGE OF STUDIES
There is no proof that ginseng, rhinoceros horn, or oysters have an effect on human sexual reaction. But might some foods and over the counter drugs eventually be proven to affect sexual appetite? Some big obstacles exist to answering this question. The placebo effect is one scientific stumbling block.
"The mind is the most potent aphrodisiac there is," says John Renner, founder of the Consumer Health Information Research Institute (CHIRI). "It's very difficult to evaluate something someone is taking because if you tell them it's an aphrodisiac, the hope of a certain response might actually lead to an additional sexual reaction."
YOHIMBINE
Because the psychological complications are absent in animals, some studies have been done on the effect of certain drugs on animals' sexual activity. One substance that was tested extensively in animals is yohimbine. Obtained from the bark of an African tree, yohimbine has been used for centuries in Africa and West India for its supposed aphrodisiac properties.
It supposedly works by stimulating the nerve centers in the spine that control erection. FDA called the results of preliminary animal studies "encouraging," but animal studies cannot be relied on to show the effectiveness of the drug in humans.
In people, the only available evidence is anecdotal and subjective. To scientifically measure sexual stimulation, a valid human study would have to be performed in the laboratory, comparing a placebo (an inert pill with no active ingredients) to the test aphrodisiac.
Preferably, neither the researchers nor the patients would know who was getting the test substance. Because of cultural taboos, few such studies have been undertaken.
A second obstacle to obtaining proof of aphrodisiac effects is that some drugs may not actually have specific sexual effects, but may change a person's mood and therefore seem to be an aphrodisiac. For example, alcohol has been called a " social lubricant."
People drink for many reasons, including to relax, reduce anxiety, gain self confidence, and overcome depression. Because sexual problems can be caused or worsened by psychological stress, moderate drinking might seem like a sexual enhancer. In fact, it merely lessens inhibitions.
Alcohol is actually a depressant, and so, as the porter in Shakespeare's Macbeth observed, it "provokes the desire, but it takes away the performance." And drinking too much actually decreases desire.
Despite the lack of scientific evidence of safety and effectiveness, the fraudulent over the counter love potion industry thrives to this day. Marketers use a "blatant snake-oil approach," according to CHIRI's Renner. He estimates that the aphrodisiac selers, who do much of their business by mail-order, take in revenues in the hundreds of millions of dollars a year.
FDA sends warning letters to companies that make aphrodisiac claims, stating that the agency may take further regulatory action if the violations continue. "In the health fraud area, when they get a warning letter, most people take their profits and run," says Joel Aronson, director of FDA's division of nontraditional drugs. "They don't want to get into a legal battle with the agency because it could involve protracted, expensive litigation."
SPANISH FLY
Aphrodsiac experimentation isn't just a rip-off, it can be deadly. Spanish fly, or cantharides, is probably the most legendary aphrodisiac - and the most dangerous. Made from dried beetle remains, the reported sexual excitement from Spanish fly comes from the irritation to the urogenital tract and a resultant rush of blood to the sex organs. But Spanish fly is a poison that burns the mouth and throat and can lead to genitourinary infections, scarring of the urethra, and even death.
SEEKING PROFESSIONAL HELP
To avoid being taken for their money or their lives, individuals with sexual problems should seek a physician's advice. A lack of sexual energy or ability in men or women could be caused by something as simple as stress or a medication one is taking, or as serious as an underlying condition like diabetes or high blood pressure.
A doctor can diagnose a sexual problem and recommend treatment. If necessary, a doctor can prescribe a drug or treat sexual dysfunction.
"People will continue to have false hopes of finding easy ways of resolving their problems," says Aronson. And so the hunt for the elusive love drug persists. A universal aphrodisiac may never be found, but experts agree that what's good for your overall health is probably good for youe sex life too.
A good diet and a regular exercise program are a more dependable path to better sex than are goats' eyes, deer sperm, and frogs' legs. A good mental state is equally important.
Maybe the wishful search for a cure-all drug should be abandoned in favor of an easier, more reliable mechanism: the erotic stimulation of one's own imagination. To quote renowned sex expert "Dr.Ruth" Westheimer,Ed.D.: "The most important sex organ lies between the ears."
Tamar Nordenberg, the author of this article, is a lawyer with the Office of the Director in FDA's Center for Drug Evaluation and Research.